It's been a year since having a baby and I feel like a lost myself and who I am. I know I am a mommy and wife which I love being those and I'm truly blessed to be a wife and mommy, but at times I get down because I want to find me again. I know beside those two deep down inside there is one more person who wants to come out and that is myself. Once I became a wife it was time to take care of my husband and than myself, than now that I'm mommy it's my son needs, husband needs and whatever my needs after that. There are times I wake up get dress and not feeling it but thankful I'm here. I'm not looking the way I look, my me time is doing blogging or crafts but I know can do more when I find time. When I'm doing that you can catch me taking care of my family, and at times I just want to go to sleep because I'm so tired and start my day the same old thing all over again.
My husband doesn't take me out on date nights which I told him let's at least do it once a month. We have babysitter who always offer but he doesn't want to leave our son behind. I just feel like a mommy more than a wife, and I hope soon myself and my wife side will start coming out sooner than later. I have reach out and talk to my husband and I'm hoping he will listen to me and let's do wife and husband things, as well as mommy and daddy things.
Don't get my wrong I love that I'm a mommy and wife, but at times I'm just a mommy and not only myself wants to come out as well as the wife side too!!!
Please help as I'm reaching out for tips and tricks...Where you lost when you became a wife and mommy or one or the other? How did you find me time? Did you ever find yourself?
I love what I do, but I know I will find myself again.
I think there is a period of adjustment here. The baby is very helpless in the beginning. as the baby gets older you will gradually start to feel like yourself. And it will be easier to interact with the baby as well. You might also discover other facets of your personality because becoming a mom changes us. A lot. So you may discover other things about yourself that you had never had a chance to think about before. I found out I was very nurturing, and before baby I did not have a maternal bone in my body. I also realized I liked to watch kids shows with them.. Just be patient and give it time. The first few years can be quite a adjustment.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I have change and I notice that. I will take it day by day, enjoy every moment, and I will for sure have patience. I have my days which I know it's normal but I wouldn't have it any other way.
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